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SAUDI ARABIA
MARRIAGE TO
SAUDIS
The following information has
been prepared by our Embassy in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, to assist United States
citizens in understanding the cultural and legal differences they face when
considering marriage to a Saudi citizen. The information was culled from
interviews with Americans married to Saudis, most of whom were American women.
While the majority of this document will address concerns specific to American
women, American men may also want to consider these issues as well.
All the Americans interviewed
strongly urged prospective spouses of Saudi men to visit the Kingdom and meet
the Saudi in-laws before making a commitment to a culture very different in many
respects from the one in which they were raised.
The American citizen spouse of a
Saudi national is, with a handful of exceptions, female. Saudi women are
prohibited from marrying non-Arabs except with a special dispensation from the
King. (A dispensation is also required before a Saudi woman may marry an Arab
who is not a citizen of the Gulf Cooperation Council, i.e. Qatar, Kuwait,
Bahrain, Oman, and the United Arab Emirates.) Saudi families generally will not
allow their daughters to marry non-Muslims, and conversion to Islam is often
required before an American man could marry a Saudi woman. A few daughters of
Saudi diplomats, raised and educated abroad, are known to have received royal
dispensation for marriage to Europeans. Most Saudi women who are married to
westerners reside abroad with their husbands.
WHAT TO EXPECT AND
CONSIDER
Life in Saudi Arabia, a country
that prides itself on its conservative interpretation and application of the
Quran, (Koran) requires that couples talk about very basic lifestyle issues.
Americans in Saudi Arabia suggest that Americans considering marriage to a Saudi
discuss the following lifestyle issues with their prospective spouse before
marrying or living in Saudi Arabia.
How cosmopolitan is the Saudi
husband's family?
All American wives encourage
prospective brides to meet the Saudi family before arriving in Saudi Arabia as a
married woman. While it is no guarantee of acceptance, a family that regularly
travels abroad or one in which the father has been stationed abroad is generally
more broad-minded when it comes to their son marrying a westerner. It is the
parents who can be the greatest source of pressure on a dual-national marriage
and it is important to determine their opinions of what an American wife can and
cannot do while living in Saudi Arabia.
With whom will you
live?
Many newly married couples move in
with the groom's parents, in a sprawling villa that may house several other
siblings and their wives and families. There is no such thing as personal
privacy and tensions with family members who for one reason or another, may
resent the presence of an American wife, often make this living arrangement
difficult. In a more affluent family, a couple may inhabit one of several homes
in a small family compound. Some Saudis live separately in villas or apartments.
While that may resolve the issue of privacy, many American wives find themselves
completely isolated, surrounded by neighbors who only speak Arabic, and with no
access to public or private transportation.
Western-style housing arrangements,
which are rare, are often an apartment or villa located in a western compound or
in the Diplomatic Quarter. In the Quarter, there is a semblance of western
suburban life; however, most Saudi owners of compounds catering to non-Saudis
ban Saudi tenants since they fear western inhabitants would object. The rare
Saudi male who endorses this living arrangement is generally a naturalized Saudi
of Lebanese or Palestinian origin. For the average Saudi family, residence in a
western compound would be an unnatural renunciation of Saudi culture and would
make one culturally "suspect."
With whom will you
socialize?
Saudis socialize within the family.
Expatriates who have lived and worked for years in Saudi Arabia may never meet
the wife of a close Saudi friend and, according to custom, should never so much
as inquire about her health. For an American wife, a social life confined to her
husband's family can be stultifying, particularly since few American wives
speak, or learn to speak, Arabic. Whether the Saudi husband permits his wife to
socialize with men to whom they are not related determines how western a social
life they will enjoy. Because of the segregated society, Saudi men naturally
spend much of their time together, separate from wives and family. (Even Saudi
weddings are segregated affairs, with observances for men and women often held
on different evenings and in different locations.) Only the most westernized
Saudi will commit to socializing with other dual-national couples.
What freedom of movement will
you enjoy?
Women are prohibited from driving,
riding a motorcycle, pedaling a bicycle, or traveling by taxi, train or plane
without an escort. All American wives were aware that they would not be able to
drive while in Saudi Arabia, but few comprehended just how restricted their
movements would be. Only the relatively affluent Saudi family will have a driver
on staff. Most American women depend entirely upon their husbands and male
relatives for transportation. While most expatriate western women routinely use
taxis, any woman married to a Saudi will be expected to have an escort - either
another female relative or children - before entering the taxi of an unrelated
male.
Will you and your children be
permitted to travel separately from your husband or leave the country without
him?
Travel by train or plane inside
Saudi Arabia requires the permission of the male spouse and the presence of a
male family escort. Travel outside Saudi Arabia is even more restricted.
Everyone leaving Saudi Arabia must have an exit visa.
Women and children residing in
Saudi Arabia as members of a Saudi household (including adult American citizen
women married to Saudi men, adult American citizen women who are the unmarried
daughters of Saudi fathers, and American citizen boys under the age of 21 who
are the sons of Saudi fathers) require the permission of the Saudi male head of
their household to leave the country. Married women require the permission of
their husband to depart the country, while unmarried women and children require
the permission of their father or male guardian. The U.S. Embassy can intercede
with the Saudi government to request exit permission for an adult American woman
(wife or daughter of a Saudi citizen), but may not be able to obtain permission
for the departure of minor children without the father's agreement.
Temporary visitors normally do not
need an exit permit but may be prevented from departing the country if they are
involved in a legal dispute.
Will you be permitted to
work?
There are two hurdles an American
wife must overcome before finding work outside the home: the disapproval of the
family and the lack of employment opportunities, particularly if the wife does
not speak Arabic. Most husbands will not approve of a wife working outside the
home if it entails contact with unrelated men. Employment is generally
restricted to the fields of education (teaching women students only) and
medicine. Unfortunately, there is a tremendous social bias against the nursing
profession and most Saudi husbands would not approve of a wife working with
patients, except as a physician.
Will your husband take a second
wife?
Among the younger generation, it is
rare for a Saudi to have a second wife, but it does occur. A man is legally
entitled to up to four wives, with the proviso that he be able financially and
emotionally to accord them equal status.
Religion
In principle, all Saudi men must
marry Muslims or converts to Islam. In practice, many American women blur the
issue, participating in a Sharia (Islamic) wedding ceremony but never actually
converting.
Pressure to convert to Islam is
enormous and never-ending. There is no separation of church and state in Saudi
Arabia, and at the popular level there is simply no comprehension of religious
freedom or the desire to remain another religion or undecided. Children born to
a Saudi man are considered to be Muslim at birth. Women who do not convert can
find it difficult to accept that their children, through hours of Islamic
education a day at school and under the tutelage of the family, will be
practicing Muslims. Women who do convert may find that their conversion,
particularly in the aftermath of a divorce, is suspect and their fidelity to
Islam perceived to be less than their husband's.
Family
Saudi Arabia has one of the highest
birthrates in the world and families with five or more children are the norm.
The family is the basic unit of Saudi life and family members may have much
closer relations than in the United States. Every family member feels free to
give an opinion on any facet of another family member's life. Siblings -
particularly an older brother - are expected to aid each other financially, and
males must band together to guard the honor of their female relations. Children
are not expected or encouraged to leave home even when they are adults.
What will it be like to raise a
daughter?
Cultural differences are never
greater than when it comes to the role of women, and a mother raising a daughter
in Saudi Arabia can anticipate that her daughter's upbringing will be very
different from her own and that her daughter will have dreams and expectations
that her mother may not share. Growing up in Saudi Arabia, a young girl may
naturally look forward to the day when she comes of age and can wear the abaya
and cover her hair. She will naturally be very devout. She may be expected to
marry a first cousin. For a Saudi girl, this may be the natural state of
affairs; for an American mother of a Saudi girl, it can be
unsettling.
If the Marriage
Fails
In the worst scenario, an American
wife can find herself summarily divorced, deported, and deprived of any right of
visitation with her children. Sharia (Islamic) law decidedly favors men in the
dissolution of marriage, and the laws of Saudi Arabia require that all
individuals be sponsored by a Saudi citizen in order to receive a visa, resident
or otherwise. Therefore, once a marriage breaks up, the American must leave
Saudi Arabia and, in most cases, may only return with the explicit permission
and sponsorship of her ex-husband. If a Saudi husband attempts to prevent
his wife from leaving, the Embassy can call upon Saudi authorities to facilitate
the American's departure. The Embassy cannot force a Saudi husband to relinquish
the children.
The basis for marriage under
Shari'a Law is the marriage contract, which is negotiated between the
prospective husband and wife prior to marriage. The signing of the contract by
the bride and groom and their witnesses in front of a Shari'a Court official is
the legal beginning of the marriage. The contract can include prenuptial
agreements concerning the custody and place of residence of children and the
wife's ability to depart Saudi Arabia if the marriage should be terminated by
death of the husband or divorce. An American citizen considering marriage to a
Saudi citizen can obtain Saudi legal counsel to assist in negotiating the
marriage contract to include agreements of this nature. It is the Embassy' s
understanding that prenuptial agreements written into the marriage contract as
an integral part of the contract will be subsequently honored by a Saudi Shari'a
Court.
What custody rights do women
have under Sharia law?
Theoretically, a mother should
maintain custody the children until the ages of 7-9, when their primary care
would be transferred to their father. However, the ultimate objective of a
Sharia court in the settlement of custody issues is that the child be raised a
good Muslim. Whether a convert or not to Islam, an American woman will not
overcome the prejudice against her upbringing and society.
Can an American be denied
visitation rights to his or her children?
A Saudi parent must give explicit
permission for an ex-spouse to visit their children in Saudi Arabia. The Embassy
has worked with the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to create the "no-objection"
visa. The ex-husband must be willing to sign a statement that he has no
objection to his ex-spouse visiting Saudi Arabia. In that statement, the Saudi
parent would establish how long he or she is willing to let the ex-spouse remain
in the country. The history of no-objection visas is mixed.
A Saudi parent often objects to the
emotional disruption of a visit from the American parent. Often a Saudi
husband's second wife can become jealous, and the American mother may find that
her visit is restricted in time and carried out in full view of the extended
Saudi family.
OTHER CHILDREN'S
ISSUES
For
information on international adoption of children and international parental
child abduction, please refer to our Internet site at
http://travel.state.gov/children's_issues.html or telephone (202)
736-7000.
REGISTRATION AND
EMBASSY/CONSULATE LOCATION
Americans living in or visiting
Saudi Arabia are encouraged to register at the Consular Section of the U.S.
Embassy in Riyadh or the Consulates General in Dhahran and Jeddah. U.S. citizens
who register at the U.S. Embassy or the U.S. Consulates General may obtain
updated information on travel and security within Saudi Arabia and can be
included in the warden network.
The U.S. Embassy in Riyadh, Saudi
Arabia, is located at Collector Road M, Riyadh Diplomatic Quarter. The
international mailing address is P.O. Box 94309, Riyadh 11693. Mail may also be
sent via the U.S. Postal Service to: U.S. Embassy, Unit 61307, APO AE
09803-1307. The Embassy telephone number is (966) (1) 488-3800, fax (966) (1)
488-7275. Additional information may be
found on the Embassy website at http://riyadh.usembassy.gov.
The U.S. Consulate General in
Dhahran, Saudi Arabia, is located between Aramco Headquarters and the old
Dhahran Airport at the King Fahd University of Petroleum and Minerals highway
exit. The international mailing address is P.O. Box 38955, Doha-Dhahran 31942.
Mail may also be sent via the U.S. Postal Service to: Unit 66803, APO AE
09858-6803. The telephone number is (966) (3) 330-3200, fax (966) (3) 330-6816.
Additional information may be found on
the consulate website at http://dhahran.usconsulate.gov.
The U.S. Consulate General in
Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, is located on Palestine Road, Ruwais. The international
mailing address is P.O. Box 149, Jeddah. Mail may also be sent via the U.S.
Postal Service to: Unit 62112, APO AE 09811-2112. The telephone number is (966)
(2) 667-0080, fax (966) (2) 669-3078 or 669-3098. Additional information may be found on the
consulate website at http://jeddah.usconsulate.gov.
U.S. citizens should also consult
the Department of State's Consular Information
Sheet for Saudi Arabia and the World Wide
Caution Public Announcement, which are located on the Department's Internet
website at http://travel.state.gov.
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